Hello Friends!
After a long gap I am again in front of you with my “Experience of Life so far…”
This article is dedicated to all the girls of INDIA, to my friends who are girls and especially to one girl whose story I am going to tell you now. You all might be surprised that what has happened to Veeru (especially Masak Kali hehehe…), why he is talking on such a serious topic “INDIAN GIRL”. But my dear friends I can bet that after reading this section you all will start thinking on this topic seriously. I think this is not only her story but is the story of every Indian girl especially who belongs to middle class family.
Let me first of all clear one thing that I am not trying to show sympathy to anyone. This is the story of one of my friend SUJATA (imaginary name due to privacy reason) and I am sharing it with you without her permission. I don’t know why I am doing so…probably because from this story I started thinking of our country’s future…or may be I am stupid. Whatever the reason is, let’s start the story.
"When you grow up, you can be whatever you want to be." Little girls in the United States hear this all the time, from their mothers to teachers. Almost everywhere they go, they are encouraged to believe that girl can be just as smart, athletic, and successful as boys. Even the pictures of spunky women on magazine covers at the checkout stand tell them that when you're a girl, anything is possible. But for little girls in developing countries, the message is just the opposite. From the day they are born, they are constantly reminded of the things they are not allowed to do.
Sujata, age 20 years, a simple girl with extraordinary dreams, with frank & caring nature, wants to do a lot of things in life. In her opinion life means “Jeena with letting everybody happy and being happy at the same time…” Her aim is to achieve zenith in corporate field. She loves her Mom and Dad like anything. When I asked Sujata about her dad she replied, “He is not my dad, he is my God and I can do anything for him to make him happy.”
To make her dreams come true she came in another city for further studies, far away from her parents to her relative’s house. In this city I met with this girl incidentally. I don’t know how we became such a good friends and started talking almost every day on phone or by messages. We started sharing each and every secret of our lives with each other; we started helping each other in problems. She is the topper of IP university, isn’t it amazing?
Due to her frank nature, she has many friends. But her relatives think that she is just attracted towards opposite sex and hence scold her and warn her not to make friends. When she came at my home for her Visual Basic project (thanks to Chirag Sir who taught me VB), her uncle & aunty didn’t like it and scolded her like anything, blaming some rubbish things on her.
One thing I want to tell you here that her Uncle and Aunty have good terms with my family. But still they have problem on our simple and sweet friendship. “A Boy and a Girl can never be friends”, her relatives are probably the biggest supporter of this.
After few days she got some problem with VB theory and she wanted to clear her doubts with my help and as far as I think nothing is wrong in it. But when she came to my home, again the same thing happened. This time it took place in worst way. They do not trust on me, I can understand this but they do not have trust on Sujata, it is beyond my scope. The question here arise that what can we do for such narrow-minded people to think like normal human beings?
I don’t have any solution of this problem Sujata. I am not able to help you. I don’t know how I can…
Friends, her relatives are planning her marriage within a year. She is just 20 year old innocent girl. She wants to fly with wings of her dreams, but this society wants to cut her wings.
This is not just the story of Sujata, this is the case of most of the girls in this country. Women in India have always been the topics of concern. The family and society at large consider women as second class citizens. Though we respect and preach them in the form of Durga, Saraswati, Parvati and Kali, we also abuse disrespect them in the form of Child-marriage, Female infanticide, Sati, Sexual harassment and a lot more.
“We say every person is independent in our country, if it is so why a girl can not take her own decision, why she need permission every time she goes out, why she can’t make her own sky….WHY???” says Kinshuki.
This girl only wants a healthy environment. She does not need any support or sympathy but she wants a chance to grow.
One of my best friends, masak kali said that, “If a girl is in an environment jaha ke logo ki soch he kharab ho to she will suffer but achhey logo k beech kaam karegi, rahegi to progress hogi…”
It means the only thing we all need to do is to be a good human being. Good people will make good society and good society will give healthy environment to each and every girl and to our coming generation.
We talk about reservation for women, but tell me one thing that by giving reservation only; can women live happily in this country? By giving reservation, can they be a part of this country? By giving education to them, can they survive in this society?
No my dear friends, in fact we need to give education to all men so that they can start respecting the women.
Now I want your help friends. Not in the case of Sujata, whom I know, but for every Sujata in this country, to help them grow in healthy and social environment.
I am ready to do anything and please give your comments and suggestions for the same. If you have some idea and want to implement it then please contact me on my mail id me.virendrakedia@gmail.com or on my number +91-9928395586.
“Naari Shakti Ko Salaam…!!”
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